earlier this afternoon and I got suddenly curious how my 86yo grandmother felt about marriage equality and LGBT rights. Since she's often hilarious, I decided to interview her on the phone and post it here. I put it on speakerphone, recorded it, then transcribed it. She's in Miami, and Cuban-born, so this is translated from Spanish. She's a pretty feisty lady. I want to be her when I grow up. Here's what she said:
Me: Grandma, what do you think about this couple in their 90s supporting their gay grandkids in the fight for marriage equality?
Grandma: I think it's very nice. You have to support your family, no matter who they are. You can't reject people for things like that.
Me: If you had gay or lesbian family, would you do the same?
Grandma: I don't know if I could make a video like those people. They speak English.
Me: What about in Spanish? Would you make videos supporting marriage equality in Spanish.
Grandma: Ay... don't get any ideas. I don't want to make a video.
Me: But is it okay if I post this on the Internet? On one of my websites
Grandma: Ignorant people might yell at you.
Me: Oh, that's okay, I don't mind.
Grandma: Yes, you can put what I said on the Internet.
Me: Okay. So do you support gay and lesbian people getting married?
Grandma: I think gay people should be able to get married. Times have changed. Even my ideas have changed. There used to be a lot of ignorance and rumors about gay people, mostly because they had to live in hiding, you know, you couldn't be yourself out in public like they can be sometimes now. So I think people just made things up. But think gay people should be allowed to live their lives like everyone else.
Me: Would you go to a gay wedding?
Grandma: Yes, I would. It would probably be more lively than a regular one. I hate weddings. They're so boring.
Me: They really are. What do you think about people who protest gay marriage?
Grandma: Oh. Idiots.
Me: They're wrong?
Grandma: Idiots. Dumb people with nothing better to do. Out of all the things to protest. They should be out trying to do some good in the world instead.
Me: Do you think you would have felt the same way when you were my age?
Grandma: (Pauses) I don't think I gave it any thought. People didn't talk about these things back then. There was a lot of ignorance. Everybody knew gay people, of course, but people didn't talk about it in normal conversation, much less in public like on the news now. I think that's good. Talking is always good. When people know things, they can make up their own minds.I would like to think that maybe with a little information and thinking about it, I would feel the same way.
Me: Do you think gay people should be able to adopt kids?
Grandma: Of course.
Me: As a Christian, what do you think the Bible says about gay people?
Grandma: The Bible is very clear that Jesus doesn't care about race or gender or where you came from or anything. He loves everyone.
Me: What about the parts of the Bible that says gay people should be stoned to death?
Grandma: We don't stone people to death anymore...
Me: So you don't think that applies?
Grandma: I think God gave us some common sense to be able to figure out what parts were meant for forever, like "don't kill" and "don't steal" and "be good to people," and what parts were just a record of the society people lived in back then. We don't hide women in the dark during their periods anymore, either. Things like that.
Me: What about gays in the military? Do you think that should be allowed?
Grandma: You know, when I heard President Obama had helped made that legal, I was surprised it already wasn't. If you're willing to pick up a gun and go fight in some war somewhere for my freedom, I'm not willing to do that, so if you are, I don't care if you have a boyfriend or a girlfriend or fifteen cats.
Me: Yeah, I think most people supported that one.
Grandma: It's like I told you. God gave us common sense for a reason.
Me: I know you've had a few close gay male friends. Have you ever had a lesbian friend?
Grandma: I did in Cuba. She was my neighbor and she did everyone's hair on the block. You couldn't really tell she was a lesbian, but she told me, after many years of knowing her.
Me: What do you mean by "you couldn't tell she was a lesbian?"
Grandma: Well, she was very glamorous. She looked like a movie star all the time - that's why she did everyone's hair. Some lesbians, you can tell.
Me: In English, they call the ability to tell if someone's gay "gaydar." Like "radar" but for "gay."
Grandma: Oh! I think I have that.
Me: You think you have good gaydar?
Grandma: Well, I was an artist, so I was around a lot of gay men. And I can usually tell, but Paula fooled me.
Me: The slang term for lesbians who are very conventionally feminine in English is "lipstick lesbian."
Grandma: She did wear lipstick!
Me: Do you think a lot of older people think like you do?
Grandma: I think so. A lot of older people keep up with the news better than you think. And you get to be my age and you realize a lot of past mistakes in your thinking. You realize that a lot of things you think mattered, really don't. And the people who don't think like that, it's mostly because they don't know any better. But even at my age, people can be taught.
Me: Thank you, Pupa.
Grandma: You should show me your website when you put this up. I hope a lot of people read it.
More gender swapped Valentines for Comics Alliance!
Lum and Ataru!
This one is my favorite. I never read Archie but that’s because this is the stuff I grew up with. Well this and LOTS of Ranma, but a gender swapped Ranma wouldn’t make much sense would it? Haha.
Phew! That’s the last of em. Hope you have a happy Valentine’s Day!
Welcome to: If Male Superhero Costumes were Designed Like Female Superhero Costumes!
Aaaaa I dunno. I got tired of guys having no idea why girls find female superhero’s costumes kinda sexist, so I, um, made this?
My main goals were: 1) Make it so the first thing you think of when you look at them is sex, whether you want to or not. 2) make it so that any male human who looks at this feels really uncomfortable. 3) make it funny, because, well, it’s kinda hilarious really.
Not trying to start a war here, just wanted to poke a bit of fun.
So, here you go menfolk, welcome to being a girl who likes comics.
Really what commentary do I need to add to this?
>2) make it so that any male human who looks at this feels really uncomfortable
What if I don’t feel uncomfortable? :V
I dunno, it’s not like male characters in comics don’t already have absurd hypersexualized designs themselves. But I’m told those “don’t count” because it’s also part of the male fantasy and blah blah blah.
I dunno, I just think this kind of thing is getting super old and they’ve lost their “bite” as far as criticism and commentary on the comic industry goes.
S’all about context. You tell me Power Girl’s design is sexist and I’ll call you an idiot. You tell me Bomb Queen’s design is sexist and I’ll agree with you 100%.
We get it, you don’t like how some females in comics have sexy costume designs. But there are just as many practical and non-sexualized costumes for females in comics that seem to be ignored in these situations. Same goes for the dudes. There are tons of sexist and sexualized designs for dudes and there are just as many practical ones as well.
But without that variety.. eh, things would just be boring.
Just felt like getting that mini-rant out of my system.
There is a difference between “hypersexualized” and “idealized”.
It’s why Wolverine doesn’t fight crime like this;
Even though that’s not a far mark away from this;
Also the difference between Image’s Glory then;
Laughing for real at the commentary before this last one. “Tons of sexualized men in comics”? Are we… looking at the same comics? And one Google Image search for Power Girl will show you a whole bunch of creepy “motivational posters” written by dudes who want to bang her because of her outfit.
People are stupid.
Smoked Like a Collicella: Attention fellow LGBTQ Folk!
The Psychology Department at the University of Florida is conducting a study about attitudes among the LGBTQ population. LGBTQ populations are currently under-represented in psychology literature, and it is important to understand these struggles so that we are able to find solutions. Please help us by participating in our study! It will only take you 8-12 minutes and you will help make a lasting impact on the psychological literature regarding LGBTQ populations.
In order to participate, you must:
- Be 18 years of age or older
- Identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and/or queer
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EDIT:: Even though this is through a Florida university, you may absolutely participate if you live outside of the US.
Go go go go~
Today is October 12th 2012, it is the day Matthew Shepard passed away—murdered. October 7th 1998 is the day he was abducted, tied to a fence, and brutally beaten with the end of a gun. This is considered one of the most horrific anti-gay hate crimes to this day. 18 hours later a passing bicyclist found Matthew, at 12:23am in a hospital, surrounded by loved ones, Matthew passed away. This loss enraged millions of people across the world, the sheer violence and disregard for a human life is beyond the definition abomination. This loss also sparked national attention and in it, thus The Matthew Shepard Foundation was born. Such blatant bigotry and malevolence will not be tolerated. Matthew, you may have suffered a horrific death, but you are still a light in the LGBTQ community. We can only hope that one day everyone will look upon your story and see the illumination. Our condolences are never ending for the family and friends of Matthew Shepard.
from left to right;
I am afraid to hold my boyfriend’s hand.
My friend’s parents sent her away.
I found death threats in my locker.
I submitted to electroshock therapy.
I lost half my friends after coming out.
My grandmother sends me hate mail.
My school won’t let me take my date to prom.
I am not here anymore.
My dad tried to beat it out of me.
No one is proud of me.
This showed up on my blog again. Forever reblog.
My heart is broken. Especially at ‘I’m not here anymore.’
My grandmother sends hate mail.
I… I have to confess, that one in particular stood out to me. Not because of what I myself have experienced, but what I’ve heard in regards to my husband. When the family of my mother’s side (father’s side is all over the map and barely in contact really) first found out that he was bi, the first thing my aunt did was pull me aside and ask if something was wrong.
Then, later, there was various ‘subtle’ mentions of certain verses of the bible, certain things that they wanted to ‘highlight’. Grandma and Grandpa, bless them, didn’t take part- they made clear they didn’t understand or agree, but they didn’t take part, because to them, all that mattered was that I was happy, and that my husband was my husband- he wasn’t about to run away with another man or woman, wasn’t about to cheat on me period.
But my aunt seemed determined to let me know, in tiny fine print, that he was going to burn in hell for any and all attractions we shared, and it frankly disgusted and terrified me- moreso when, upon asking if this was what she believed of all of my friends, trans, gay, bisexual or lesbian, she flat out stated that there would be no forgiveness for them.
It’s one of the biggest reasons that I was, (and still am) entirely confused about my beliefs in religion, and more importantly about just what my aunt is like. My cousins were a-okay; but my aunt just about went fire and brimstone on me.
I still haven’t gotten over it.
Part of the “Breaking the Silence 2010” event at World’s Fair Park on April 16, supporting GLBT youth from local high schools.
Sunny Clifford, a 26-year-old Pine Ridge Tribal park ranger, has launched a Change.org petition that seeks to improve the quality of women’s lives by making Plan B available—and affordable—throughout Indian Country. Just months after the Native American Women’s Health Education Resource Center (NAWHERC) published a startling February 2012 report, “Indigenous Women’s Dialogue: Roundtable Report on the Accessibility of Plan B as an Over the Counter (OTC) Within Indian Health Service,” Clifford’s petition is over 100,000 signatures strong and well on its way to meeting its goal of 150,000 signatures. But with just three voting days left, Clifford’s campaign greatly needs your support.
Queer and Trans Tango ‘is a new way to dance Argentine tango free from traditional heteronormative codes.’ It is ‘simply an open form of Tango Argentino where roles are no longer defined by “male/leader” “female/follower” but by any form desired by the dancers. During the dance, leading and following roles can be interchanged but even – within the roles themselves, creative new approaches can be used to break the traditional steps.’ (from www.queertango.com/)
Since we launched this video to protest Russia’s new gay censorship law 4 days ago, thousands of people have left horrendous, hateful comments like “Die all of you, faggots!” and “Fags should go in the oven”.
Thanks to you, the video is having a huge impact and going viral with over 200,000 views1, but right now a minority of violently extreme voices are drowning us out on the page. The messages are so terrible that many Russian All Out members asked that we disable the comment feature - and for one day we did - but the All Out team just made the decision to open them back up and give you a chance to change the conversation.
It will take 30 seconds to log into YouTube (you can do it with your Gmail account), but it will really make a difference. Journalists and Russian lawmakers who see this viral video think the supporters of hate are ruling the day. Will you help us overwhelm the page with messages of equality from all around the world and share the emotional video with your friends and family?
Alberto, Andre, Erika, Flavia, Guillaume, Jasmin, Jeremy, Joseph, Oli, Tile and Wesley
PS - The Governor of St. Petersburg has still not signed the “gay gag rule” into law. You said “don’t go there” and it’s working - keep up the pressure by watching, commenting and spreading the word.
1. Russia Gazette: LGBT community demands St. Petersburg governor veto “the law on homosexuality”
2. Facebook: Photos from our global Day of Action
3. Queerty: All Out Tells St. Petersburg Governor Not To Tarnish Tchaikovsky’s Legacy With Anti-Gay Bill
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LASER CROWS: Oh wow I was just thinking...
I fucking hope to god that this transethnic, transfat, transabled, appropriative shit doesn’t really take off.
I’ll be so fucking pissed if I am talking about trans issues and feel like I have to clarify that I mean…
But trans fat is already a thing, it comes before sat fat. (Both are terrible for you.)